Monday, February 18, 2013

I'm Back

I know it's been something like 2 months since I last wrote here. We're back in the states, getting settled, trying to unpack boxes, waiting anxiously for my van to finally arrive so we can go pick it up, and the kids and I are not stuck at home and we can get more involved in our homeschool group and I can get back to PWOC.

Okay so I'm here tonight, because I just need to vent a little. I do NOT understand why people ask for advice, get it in a loving and supportive way and then says  "don't make me feel guilty if this doesn't work out", when nothing of the sort has happened. I'm sorry, but if a person is feeling guilty, maybe it's their God given conscience, telling you to try harder, do better, and quit making excuses.
This kind of behavior just frustrates me beyond belief. I am holding back though, and venting here instead of yelling at the person who's annoying me with this behavior. I'd love to know how others deal with this sort of behavior. I want to be Christ like when addressing these situation, but I will tell you now, it's not my first reaction. For now, I'm just sitting on my hands and seeking the Lord's wisdom.


terre said...

glad to see you are back to writing. missed that. as for your question, I don't know an answer. I just try to keep it all in perspective and realize that its not my problem if they take advice well or not. you can only do what you can do -- if someone else refuses to use what they are given, then its on them. but I do understand how that would frustrate you.

Barb said...

I have experienced this many times, hon, still do. For many years I found myself getting frustrated until I talked long and hard to the Lord about it. He helped me get it straight. What it boiled down to is simply loving and accepting these kinds of people as they are, trying to remember that like ourselves they have certain issues they struggle with, issues that only God can change. So now when people ask me for advice I still pray first, then give it, but not letting myself fret about whether or not they take it. My frustration came because, as the Lord explained it to me, I had expectations of these people, expected them to take my advice after asking for it. That was a humbling experience for me, but one I never forgot. Life is so much easier now that that one thorn in my flesh got taken care of. I had to remind myself too that when these people don't take my advice after asking for it the very fact that I was frustrated showed (I) was the one with the problem. It may not be this way with you, hon. Just sharing how the Lord helped me with this situation.

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