Sunday, July 05, 2009

Lets be honest here

My husband's home after being deployed to Iraq for nearly 14 months and well many would think I'm floating on cloud 9, but here's the reality, I'm rather grouchy. Part of it is most definitely hormones. The other part though is that it's a hard transition. Really hard, when you are used to doing everything yourself, and then he comes home and wants everything to be back to "normal", wants to jump back in...part of me wants that, the other part though is screaming "NO, that's my job". It's crazy because it's what I've been waiting for, but it's a transition and we're only on day 4 of his return. I've been snippy with him all day, and there's been no reason for it, except I'm being a pain in his butt. He's tired and deserves to take a nap, I'm tired and really desire to take one (or 50) myself. The bad thing is, I wake up normally grouchy from my naps, so it's best that I not take one. Finding this balance is going to take a while, so there's my prayer request. Pray that we find that balance. This is not our first go around of reintegration. This is our 5th. There's still bumps we have to get through, there's still the discoveries of how this deployment has changed us for the good and the bad, and working through those changes together.

Now the kids are doing great, especially the boys. They just seem to have went right back into having Dad home. Emma's on her way as well, she really likes having Daddy around, although she still wants me quite often, even when it'd be just as good to go to Dad. She's already woken up one morning calling for Daddy over me, so she's getting used to him being here! LOL

Right now Chad's still going through reintegration, a few more days of that and then he'll start his leave. We will go to France in a couple of weeks, so in the mean time we'll be doing local things I think. Chad's yet to make up his mind for sure. I know we'll go to a couple indoor water parks, probably Legoland, Playmobil, and over to Little Swiss.

Thank you for all your support and most of all your prayers, they mean so much.

We'll get through this bump in the road and come out stronger!

God Bless



6 comments:

Terri said...

Many prayers for you all my friend...I'm sure it is tough to get things back to "normal"...after a deployment.

I wake up grouchy in the mornings and after naps most the time.. I'm not a morning person at all! LOL

Hugs
Terri

a corgi said...

I can totally understand this, Christy, even thought I have never experienced this myself. But I can equate it (just a tiny bit) with summer vacations when the kids would suddenly be home after months of having the house to myself for most of the day. We would always have a few days of getting used to each other, but those first few days were always hard to get through.

I know you guys will eventually get it 'back together' as far as working again as a team with two parents in the same country and house.

I'm leaving a prayer for you in your journal. I'm changing my prayer routine for a bit, not asking God for things during my prayer time but instead concentrating on him and his greatness and awesomeness and praising and worshipping him.

Lord, I lift both Chad and Christy up to you, as well as their kids. You know the love they have for you and the love they have for each other and their family. You know how hard the last almost 14 months have been for both of them as they have been separated from each other with the deployment. I pray Lord that you would work in both of their hearts as they transition back to being used to being a couple that is together instead of a couple separated by the deployment. I asked that you would help them to feel your peace during this time and that you would help them with the areas they struggle with about this, that they would just turn those over to you, Lord, and trust in your wisdom and discernment. I pray that you will help their transition to go as smoothly as it can and that they will feel your presence during this time. I pray, Lord, that they would seek you first and seek how Jesus would act in situations like this and try to model their behavior with what He would do. I just ask Lord too that you would help them to forgive each other, to be kind to each other, and to love each othe completely during this time of transition. In Jesus' precious name I pray, amen.

Traci said...

Praying for both of you!

Carolyn said...

Christy, I haven't come to visit as much as I wish, but I have kept you all in my thoughts and prayers! I am SO glad Chad is home again safe. I can't imagine how hard it is on you all to get used to things every time, but you will get over it again, I am sure. I want to thank you again though- and I know it never seems enough, but I am SO INCREDIBLY grateful to Chad and all our troops, and to you and all the families who are willing to go through all of this and sometimes so much more for me and all of us. I do thank God for you all. I will continue you all in my prayers- just wanted to let you know though, I am often thinking of you even when I don't come by here.
God Bless!

Bri said...

I'm sorry you are having a grouchy time with this adjustment period. I have been praying for y'all to adjust quickly and I will continue to lift your family in prayer. Hugs to you sweetie I know ya need them! :)

Amanda said...

I am for sure praying for you sweet girl!!! I know how I am after Chad's been gone for 2 weeks... I feel like I am just going to be in heaven when he gets back, then for some reason, I am snapping at him and saying, "Just let me do it!" a lot.

Now, you have got a lot of know how and experience in the situation, so I have confidence that you will find a way to get back to 'normal' soon...and you hav got so much prayer support and love from your Heavenly Father... you just cannot fail here!!!

Many, many blessings to you!
Amanda